Relationships.....

This one comes after a long time. I blame it all on laziness and lack of time management. Getting sentimental on my relationship with this blog I force myself not to let it feel neglected any more. And I gave it a new look. Simultaneously as I flipped pages of a diary lying on the table, I chanced upon an old piece of paper that reads as follows:

A man asked his father-in-law, "Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?"

The father-in-law answered in a smile, "Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings and weaknesses or when she does something wrong.

Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you."

We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point finger at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.

If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.

There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wofe and a deaf husband, because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunateky, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.



Note ends...and so does one of the glorious days when I feel largely blind.....

6 comments:

Amandeep said...

I am not getting married :(

Nitu said...

Yours is one nice blog. I like the way you present a fact and message. Keep it up...

Shams.. said...

eye-opener note! nice 2 see ya back!
TC!

purvabhatia said...

@ amandeep
woah! that's certainly not a reaction i was expecting!

@nitu & shams
thank u :)

Alok said...

Ignoring mistakes will lead you to nowhere; rather it will drift you away from the actual cause and ultimately ends up with more problems then before. Ok, what I mean is, to give a chance to the person not to repeat the mistake. But there could be very less next times in a relationship, so another point would be to learn from the first mistakes itself and stay away from the blame game (it is quite situational).

In my opinion, what is important to understand in a relationship is to acknowledge no one is so perfect to rule over the other. Everyone has their strengths and weaknesses, so as long as you find a way out to your weakness and try not to trap yourself in a situation which can be a cause for the problem then surely you have learned it that way – “ When to people are together their strengths gets doubled and weaknesses become half”.

My 2 cents :)

asit dhal said...

ya...this is the true reason for successful marriage ....

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